Being Intentional to say YES
Sorry its been so long since Ive blogged..
No real projects, Nothing special to say.. Until tonight..
I have a problem, I'm a " NO " mom..
"Mom can I have ice cream for breakfast?" --NO
"Mom can I jump off the top of the stairs? " --NO
"Mom can I play on your phone?" -- NO
"Mom can I play on your ipad?" -- NO
Mom can I play in the rain? NO... wait a minute...
Tonight after a family gathering at my in laws who live a few blocks away we came home in the rain and tried to hurry in the house.. Problem was when we left, hubby grabbed the wrong set of keys, and the house key that looked like ours was actually a key to my parents house.. 3 hrs away.. fat good that does me..
Hubby drudged back out in the drizzle and headed back to my in laws to get a spare key we had given them.. all was saved on being locked out.. no clue how we would've gotten in anyways..
As we were standing under the porch waiting my daughter (who mind you has already asked me about 700 questions today) asks if she can play in the rain..
As always my first answer is always NO.. I'm just so used to saying it at this point that I just spit it out without thinking.. However one thing I have been working on is becoming a yes mom.. Not to everything.. I have my rules and some things will just always be no.. but what harm was there in seriously letting her go run in the front yard in the rain.
I looked over and she just had this look of "MOM ALWAYS SAYS NO" i couldn't take it.. I'm sick of being that mom that just doesn't let her kids have some seriously awesome memories because I don't want to deal with clean up, inconvenience, the tears that might come from getting hurt or feeling like I'm being bothered to do something I don't personally want to do, or whatever else excuse I can come up with for saying NO..
I looked over the porch and saw a puddle on the slate walk way to the back yard and said
"makenna Go jump in that puddle right there"
The look that came across her face is something I will carry with me always.. soon enough Jack got off the porch and they just ran in the rain and jumped in the small puddles and I thought to myself.. " Who is this really hurting??" sure, next time some rubber boots might be in order, but all in all they just laughed and ran and had so much fun the 10 minutes it took Iz to get the key..
I'm a great mother.. I know I am.. even with all my NO's, but I know I can be better.. I know I can do more, i know I can be more of what my kids need and more of the mother God intended me to be.. I just have to be the one who is open to it, and I think the past few months, why being a YES mom has failed was because I didn't see that.. There is honestly in my opinion never a good time for a YES... there will always be an excuse or reason to say NO, but maybe if as moms and parents we stopped in those times we just want to say NO and really thought.. OK.. is this a time for a yes or a NO.. Maybe we would see ALOT more yes;s come out of our mouths...
God is Good and tonight was proof I will always be growing as a mom, and a daughter of Christ.
No real projects, Nothing special to say.. Until tonight..
I have a problem, I'm a " NO " mom..
"Mom can I have ice cream for breakfast?" --NO
"Mom can I jump off the top of the stairs? " --NO
"Mom can I play on your phone?" -- NO
"Mom can I play on your ipad?" -- NO
Mom can I play in the rain? NO... wait a minute...
Tonight after a family gathering at my in laws who live a few blocks away we came home in the rain and tried to hurry in the house.. Problem was when we left, hubby grabbed the wrong set of keys, and the house key that looked like ours was actually a key to my parents house.. 3 hrs away.. fat good that does me..
Hubby drudged back out in the drizzle and headed back to my in laws to get a spare key we had given them.. all was saved on being locked out.. no clue how we would've gotten in anyways..
As we were standing under the porch waiting my daughter (who mind you has already asked me about 700 questions today) asks if she can play in the rain..
As always my first answer is always NO.. I'm just so used to saying it at this point that I just spit it out without thinking.. However one thing I have been working on is becoming a yes mom.. Not to everything.. I have my rules and some things will just always be no.. but what harm was there in seriously letting her go run in the front yard in the rain.
I looked over and she just had this look of "MOM ALWAYS SAYS NO" i couldn't take it.. I'm sick of being that mom that just doesn't let her kids have some seriously awesome memories because I don't want to deal with clean up, inconvenience, the tears that might come from getting hurt or feeling like I'm being bothered to do something I don't personally want to do, or whatever else excuse I can come up with for saying NO..
I looked over the porch and saw a puddle on the slate walk way to the back yard and said
"makenna Go jump in that puddle right there"
The look that came across her face is something I will carry with me always.. soon enough Jack got off the porch and they just ran in the rain and jumped in the small puddles and I thought to myself.. " Who is this really hurting??" sure, next time some rubber boots might be in order, but all in all they just laughed and ran and had so much fun the 10 minutes it took Iz to get the key..
I'm a great mother.. I know I am.. even with all my NO's, but I know I can be better.. I know I can do more, i know I can be more of what my kids need and more of the mother God intended me to be.. I just have to be the one who is open to it, and I think the past few months, why being a YES mom has failed was because I didn't see that.. There is honestly in my opinion never a good time for a YES... there will always be an excuse or reason to say NO, but maybe if as moms and parents we stopped in those times we just want to say NO and really thought.. OK.. is this a time for a yes or a NO.. Maybe we would see ALOT more yes;s come out of our mouths...
God is Good and tonight was proof I will always be growing as a mom, and a daughter of Christ.
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